You know what’s the worst feeling a girl can get?
It’s when you fall in love with an amazing man…
But he chooses someone else over you.
We understand – It hurts!
As dating coaches, we’ve helped thousands of women around the world attract and keep their ideal man.
And one of the most common questions we get is: “What to do when your crush has a girlfriend?”
Here’s the good news:
In almost every case, it is perfectly possible to capture a man’s heart from another woman.
No matter how devoted he might seem right now, you can take him from her with a few simple psychological tricks.
Today, we’ll show you EXACTLY how to make him choose you over his ex, girlfriend or wife.
After reading this article, you will know how to make him crave your attention, and beg you for a chance at a relationship, all while thinking it was HIS idea to chase you!
3 Golden Rules For Competing With Another Woman For A Man
Before we get into the step-by-step details for stealing a man’s heart, here are the 3 Golden Rules for competing for a man with another woman.
These guidelines will help make him see you as a special woman, separating you from all the other girls in his life, and capturing his attention.
Follow these 3 rules, and you will become the center of his universe in no time!
Rule 1: Establish Boundaries
Let’s first get one thing out of the way:
Your goal is to be the most important woman in his life that he worships every day, and NOT just a side dish girlfriend.
That’s why it is very important for you to establish boundaries.
Setting up clear boundaries will send him a message that if he wants your time and attention, then he has to work for it.
This is especially true if he chose her over you but wants to be friends.
In doing so, he cannot use you as an easy fling, or a source of validation and attention.
In other words, the only way he can have you is if he devotes his entire heart to you.
It’s important for you to lay down this rule right from the beginning – This will make it easier for you to win him over later on, and make his love and commitment to you very strong.
Even if he chose her over you but now wants you back, you need to make it clear to him that you are not going to lay down and be “easy”, and he has to work hard to win back your heart.
(For some simple ideas on how to win his heart quickly and completely, check out our free video!)
Rule 2: Stay Positive
Right now, you probably feel a rush of emotions inside you knowing that his heart is with another woman…
This is completely normal, and we totally understand.
However, it is crucial for you to stay positive whenever you are with him, and never let any negative emotions get the best of you.
Here’s why:
Remember how you’d dream as a little girl about being married happily ever after in a fairytale relationship with an amazing prince?
Well, here’s a little secret that men will never admit to you:
They have the same fantasy too!
Deep inside every man’s heart, they dream of being in a beautiful relationship full of love and affection too.
But what happens instead?
Most relationships become stale and lifeless. Couples begin to do the same things over and over again, and end up bored and tired of each other…
On the other hand, when a man sees that you are a non-stop source of positive energy, he will instantly become hooked on you.
And in the back of his mind, he will start to see the possibility of a real, meaningful relationship with you.
Whatever you do, stay positive when you are with him.
Positive feminine energy is very infectious, and it won’t be long until he catches feelings for you!
(Check out our free video on how to make any man catch feelings for you quickly!)
Rule 3: Never Show Jealousy
At this point, it’s perfectly normal for you to feel jealous of the other girl…
Especially if it appears that he likes her more than you!
Your mind might be racing with thoughts, thinking of ways to make him want you more than his girlfriend, or playing games to make him jealous and want you more…
If this is you, stop right now!
The worst thing you can do for your situation is to overthink and start letting jealousy take over.
This makes you look needy and unattractive, and will turn him off and quickly kill any attraction he had for you!
On the other hand, if you’re relaxed and casual about the whole thing, he will feel a sudden urge to get closer to you.
In fact, it will make the other woman look needy and annoying by contrast.
Once she notices his heart is slowly drifting to you, she will try to lock him down and play games to keep him with her…
But as we’ve already mentioned, this is a huge attraction killer for men.
The contrast between her needy behavior and your casual and positive energy will draw his attention towards you.
This is one of the best ways to drive him away from her, and right into your arms!
How To Make A Man Choose You Over Another Woman (In 5 Easy Steps)
As you’ve probably realized, winning a man over another woman is actually quite simple. The two main components are:
- Presenting yourself as a fun, chill and positive prospect for him, and
- Driving him away from the other woman
This is a gradual process, but we’ve broken it down into 5 easy-to-follow steps.
Simply follow the steps below, and you will be able to steal any man’s heart from another woman in no time!
Step 1: Be Friendly With Him
If you want to win over a guy from another woman, you cannot convince him directly…
Instead, you must go “under the radar”.
If you openly “fight” for his love against the other woman, you will create a lot of friction and unpleasant tension.
This also puts the man in a very awkward position, and he will lose interest in you.
By being “just friends” with him, you can get close to him without directly competing with the other woman.
This is an important step, because he will slowly be able to trust you and open up to you.
You will also become a more important person in his life, even though you may not be lovers yet…
Step 2: Get Him To Open Up About The Other Woman
Eventually, you want to encourage him to speak about the other girl, and his relationship with her.
A lot of women make the mistake of avoiding any talk about the other girl. But this is an important part of establishing a trusting and close relationship between you and the guy.
The best way to do this is simply to put him on the spot and ask him if they are actually dating.
For example:
“So, I notice you and that Shirley girl are hanging out a lot. Are you guys together or what?”
Put yourself in his shoes for a second:
It is usually awkward for a guy to admit what exactly is his relationship with another girl…
And it’s even more awkward when a female friend asks him!
Here’s the thing:
It does not matter at all whether he says they are “just friends”, casually “seeing each other”, or even “boyfriend and girlfriend”.
What matters is he overcomes that awkwardness and opens up to you.
At this stage, he becomes comfortable with opening up and sharing his feelings with you.
And although you are not yet his lover, he will feel a lot closer to you on an emotional level.
Over time, this emotional bond will grow stronger and stronger, to the point where all you have to do is give him a gentle nudge for him to act on it…
Step 3: Be His “Getaway”
In a world full of stress, boredom and negativity, everybody is looking for a “getaway”.
As we’ve mentioned above, men will only commit themselves to a woman if they feel like they are entering a relationship that is full of joy and positive energy…
The quickest way to get a man to choose you over another girl is to become his personal “getaway”.
This does NOT mean letting him take advantage of your body, or becoming his casual “fling”.
You should aim to make every meeting with him a fun, adventurous and meaningful experience.
So the next time you hang out with him, don’t go for the boring old coffee again.
Instead, suggest a fun hike to watch the sunset, or challenge him to an afternoon of rock climbing.
When he realizes that his experiences with you are always memorable and fun, he will start to see the possibility of a relationship with you.
Here’s another trick to drive him away from the other girl:
Whenever he talks about her, take note of any things about her that he is annoyed or unhappy about.
By simply avoiding these traits yourself, he will start to prefer you to the other woman, and slowly lose attraction for her.
(To speed up the whole process and get him obsessed with you, check out our free video now!)
Step 4: Playfully Flirt With Him
Once you’ve established a close connection with him, you can start injecting elements of romance into your relationship.
At this point, he might not be ready for a committed relationship yet. In some cases, he might still be in a relationship with the other girl.
To get around this, you need to flirt with him in a casual and playful manner.
The goal is to make things feel flirty and romantic, but not to put too much pressure on him yet.
For example, you can tease him about his new workout program, before giving him a heartfelt compliment.
It’s also a good idea to touch him playfully at the right moments. If he says something funny, touch him gently on his arm or shoulder as you laugh.
Always remember: Attraction is a feeling.
To create an emotional bond with a man, you should aim to make it feel like you are boyfriend and girlfriend, even though it might not be official yet.
(Check out this video for some easy techniques on how to quickly form an emotional bond with a man!)
Step 5: Make Him Chase You
If you’ve followed the steps above properly, the guy should be emotionally attached to you by now.
The final step is to make things official, and lock him down for good.
Here’s the trick:
You have to get HIM to make the move.
In other words, he has to think that it was his idea all along.
So here’s what you do:
After a period of back-and-forth texting, hang outs and good vibes, cut him off suddenly.
From his point-of-view, this will shock him emotionally.
At this point, he is used to sharing good experiences with you, and enjoying the emotional bond that he shares with you…
But once you snatch that away from him, he will realize just how important you are in his life.
So for the next week or two, give him the silent treatment.
Take some time to go out, have fun with your girl friends, and don’t hesitate to chat with other guys too!
Soon enough, your crush will reach out to you.
When this happens, don’t ignore him completely, but make your replies shorter and stop spending too much time and energy on him.
The key is to wait for all the emotions to bubble up inside him, and force him to make a move on you.
In most cases, he will suggest meeting up again at some point.
When he does, playfully reject him and make him try harder.
For example:
This clever text basically forces him to take you out on a proper date and give you the proper VIP treatment!
And because you made him wait so long, there will be a lot of pressure on him to treat you extra special during the date.
If you want to give him one more nudge and move things forward, here’s what you do:
Wait for a quiet moment on the date, look him directly in the eyes with a smile and ask him this:
“So… Why were you so eager to take me out tonight?”
This is the perfect prompt for him to make a move on you and make things official!
The beauty of this entire process is that he has no idea you are trying to win him over.
In fact, he will think he had been falling in love with you naturally this entire time!
This also means he will be chasing you and treating you like a princess non-stop during your relationship.
One More Thing: How To “Lock-In” His Devotion For You
By now, you’ve learned how to easily win a man’s heart, even if he is dating or interested in another woman.
But keeping him interested is a whole different story…
Here’s the thing:
We all know guys have short attention spans.
One moment, they’re completely in love and obsessed with you…
But they can quickly lose interest and start obsessing over the next hot girl who walks by!
It’s simply not enough to get him attracted to you – You have to make him commit!
To learn how to “lock-in” a man’s feelings for you and make him completely devoted to you forever, check out our free video now:
Try out these techniques, and see how quickly he commits himself to you!